VoidTerraFirma
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Everybody goes a little crazy sometimes.
Mental illness
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Gary Blanchard
beloved, local musician
Yes, there can be a tendency to "over diagnose" problems, and sometimes medications are prescribed where they are not needed, but this should not be taken as a reason to reject the idea of mental health problems or treatment with medication. Since my diagnosis and treatment began, I established a healthy connection with my son, have maintained a 25-year relationship with my wife, earned two college degrees, began a private practice, wrote several books, have presented on addiction issues at national conferences, and have other personal victories. It is my firm belief that none of those things could have happened without the needed interventions from psychiatrists and psychologists.
Peen Simmons
Let’s Get Obtuse!
True story. I do not like it here.
So many layers of wrong.
https://slate.com/technology/2018/0...s-and-a-horrifying-artifact-of-our-times.html
Sauntman
Hack
I am the same. I am going to be 52 this year and the last time I have been to the doctor was when I was 25. I have never not had medical insurance my whole life. I keep telling myself I need to go for a health check up but just don't seem to do it. Well, I have had a lot of dental work done the past couple of years and this has something to do with not going to see a medical doctor. Also, I don't even have a general family doctor, so there is that too. Once I finally find a doctor and do set up an appointment I am sure I will go on a fairly regular basis due to being over 50 and all. Then again, maybe not.
Theodore
I gotta move
Invitropreneurs.
dmn23
Duller than cardboard
This exactly.
I take my happy pills and try to exercise regularly. Those are the two things that reliably tend to keep me on an even keel.
Fumbles
Communist Chocolate Hellhole
I've had sever social anxiety my entire life. Been on meds for it since 2002, but it's something I should've looked into a long time ago.
It's basically ruined my entire life, but I get by. Social anxiety takes, & destroys every single aspect of life. Impossible to make or keep friends, girlfriends. Any jobs are very difficult to get & keep (doing ok now, though). Employees for virtually ANY field are rewarded for being extroverted, outgoing. People that struggle w/that just fall right through the cracks.
It's sort of morphing into a general dislike of most humanity, actually.
It's basically ruined my entire life, but I get by. Social anxiety takes, & destroys every single aspect of life. Impossible to make or keep friends, girlfriends. Any jobs are very difficult to get & keep (doing ok now, though). Employees for virtually ANY field are rewarded for being extroverted, outgoing. People that struggle w/that just fall right through the cracks.
It's sort of morphing into a general dislike of most humanity, actually.
Fumbles
Communist Chocolate Hellhole
Yeah, I like that terminology. I can certainly relate to that.
I'm pretty normal and not under the care of any physician for mental health issues. I think this is largely because I grew up before anyone knew anything about autism and I managed to find an outlet for that obsessive deep but narrow interest thing that pays money.
rickenvox
Animal Psychic
I don't really get depressed. Like I kind of don't understand it. Maybe that's not normal. As long as there's a guitar to fiddle around with and a room where I can shut the door I'm pretty happy. I am however nuts in completely different ways. Maybe a little OCD and I've always had little rituals when doing things. Never thought about it until I saw some shows on people with OCD. Never had an addiction problem. I've done pretty much every drug you can think of except for crack and just gave it all up one day before I was 20. Stopped smoking when I was 28, never really was a heavy smoker. I also think LSD and other spiritual (for a lack of a better term) experiences gave me a different outlook on life. Never had to do it (LSD) again after the several times I did in my youth, but the perspective stays with you. That perspective says that there's more to life than materialism and meaningless things, like career, that we associate our entire identify with. Not that I didn't pursue a career, I've just never taken it overly serious or confused my identity with my job - other than always doing my best job and having pride in my work. I also had a short stint with religion in my early twenties (a common path for people coming out of drug culture) but found it stifling to my intellectual and spiritual growth. It also takes away from that awesome appreciation of nature and the universe and reduces it for me to something silly. But the basic values have also always stuck with me, empathy, helping people that are worse off than me. But I've never been without issues either. I've always been attracted to risk and danger, which accounts for some of the sports I've pursued. But also contributed to trouble I used to get in as a kid. I've always battled aggressive behavior, used to get in fights in high school, or being impatient with other people. But I found that exercise evens out my mental states. And growing older helps a lot. You just mellow out. And with my son I turn into a different person. I'm usually selfish by nature, but with my son as a single father some weird instinct kicks in where I'm never too tired to cook his meals, help him iron his clothes if he's running late, or drive him all over town. I've been looking at myself from the outside for the last 18 years asking, where in the hell did that come from? I grew up in California, which wasn't so diverse when I was young, but in my twenties at college and my first job I met people from all backgrounds and different countries. Working in IT for years I've always worked with Indians, Russians, Chinese, Vietnamese, Armenians, etc. As soon as I met women of different ethnic backgrounds I dated as many as possible. Just attracted to and interested in people with different backgrounds from my own. I don't know how I would survive in a homogeneous environment with only people like myself. That would be like that Night Gallery episode where one man's heaven and was another's hell. Different cultures keep me healthy and curious about life outside of my own experience. Same with traveling. You can't just sit in your own shit your whole life. Other than that I have great friends. I don't have any of my friends from school days (other than a couple I've reconnected with on Facebook), but people I've connected with in the last twenty or so years with common interests. And now we're lifelong friends. Some are single, some are married, I was married, now not. But the core of friends are always there. Relationships, that's the last thing I have to master. Longest one was 10 years, with my son's mother. Last one was 4 years. It's just problematic when you have a kid, that is never going to be the priority for them that it is for you. And also when I'm pursuing other goals in life, relationships are draining. Creatively and energy-wise. I'm finding friends with benefits is a great way to go through life for now. And if I ever wanted to settle down it can't be with the age gaps I've been dating in recent years (20 years younger).
Am I crazy? What do you think? - just look at that paragraph I just wrote. Why did I write it? I don't know. Maybe trying to figure out if I have any mental conditions. We're all just groping through the darkness trying to find our way.
Am I crazy? What do you think? - just look at that paragraph I just wrote. Why did I write it? I don't know. Maybe trying to figure out if I have any mental conditions. We're all just groping through the darkness trying to find our way.
telecaster911
Kick Henry Jackassowski
I'm sure I have some sort of OCD issues. I pretty much stress out if I can't go back and check the door once more, continually look through the mail to make sure that the stamps are there and the address can be clearly read through the window, goofy shit like that. I go yearly for my physical and twice a year to the dentist but take no meds for anything other than the occasional heartburn or pain.
DdBob
Dogue in teh desert
*disclaimer* ...I'm not a psychologist, psychiatrist, neurologist, or any other 'ist" , also not singling your post out but it just happened to be the most recent one..BUT
My view is that throughout history people have always had these "problems", nothing new here. The only new thing is that throughout the years names and definitions have been given to these things. Were they more "problematic" before or after ? Is OCD really a problem or is it just that you are "wired" as a detail oriented individual...individual being key. It makes you who you are good or bad...
and that leads me to the other thing which is perception of reality....eh, "The Doors of Perception"
and that is are any of these problems actual problems or are they problems only when you try and measure yourself up to society, your neighbor, someone else, etc...are they only problems when you try to fit into neat little check boxes of "the rest of society" do you need medicine to combat your "OCD" hell no, not in my opinion...here's what you could do on your own...A: accept it as who you are...B: experiment and just force yourself to not check the door that one last time or to not check the mail for stamps one last time. While doing this you would need to be in the present moment 100 percent and perhaps before hand mentally go through what could/would happen and be ok with it either way...Say you leave the stamp off...well shit most likely the USPS will return to sender and then you'll just have to mail it a second time, perhaps it gets lost in the mail by the USPS and then your stamp didn't matter any way, perhaps it gets dellayed and then your check to the Electric or whatever gets a late fee...oh well, right.....not he end of the world, etc, etc
Lose control, let things go, take things as they come good and bad...the yin/yang of life...it is what it is, etc, etc, etc..
Hope this helps
yabba
Weird Pick Butt Person
I think a verrry large percentage of successful researchers are 'on the spectrum'
telecaster911
Kick Henry Jackassowski
I don’t think it’s a problem. In my mind there’s Nothing wrong with double checking. Measure twice, cut once and all that.
That is so me. I always have to double check when I leave the house or when I'm heading home from a gig.
Gary Blanchard
beloved, local musician
I'm happy for you. Apparently, you have never had to fight a chemical imbalance in the brain that destroys your view of yourself and the world. May you always be so blessed.*disclaimer* ...I'm not a psychologist, psychiatrist, neurologist, or any other 'ist" , also not singling your post out but it just happened to be the most recent one..BUT
My view is that throughout history people have always had these "problems", nothing new here. The only new thing is that throughout the years names and definitions have been given to these things. Were they more "problematic" before or after ? Is OCD really a problem or is it just that you are "wired" as a detail oriented individual...individual being key. It makes you who you are good or bad...
and that leads me to the other thing which is perception of reality....eh, "The Doors of Perception"
do you need medicine to combat your "OCD" hell no, not in my opinion...here's what you could do on your own...A: accept it as who you are...B: experiment and just force yourself to not check the door that one last time or to not check the mail for stamps one last time. While doing this you would need to be in the present moment 100 percent and perhaps before hand mentally go through what could/would happen and be ok with it either way...Say you leave the stamp off...well shit most likely the USPS will return to sender and then you'll just have to mail it a second time, perhaps it gets lost in the mail by the USPS and then your stamp didn't matter any way, perhaps it gets dellayed and then your check to the Electric or whatever gets a late fee...oh well, right.....not he end of the world, etc, etc
Lose control, let things go, take things as they come good and bad...the yin/yang of life...it is what it is, etc, etc, etc..
Hope this helps
Tig
Fucktangular
^ This is very much me.
I've been out of my career for 2 years after getting laid off. The local job market remains saturated with talented IT people. I've applied for over 600 open positions and have had only 2 in person interviews. I've tweaked my resume for various job types, networked with people in high places, and stretched myself to make something happen, yet here I am. The situation is hopeless with no improvement on the horizon. I no longer give a damn about anything. I have no purpose. I don't feel sorry for myself because I no longer feel.
