As many of you know if you follow my FB and/or IG, I was recently in India on vacation. It was a great trip. I was staying at a friend's parents house in a very built up suburb of Mumbai (Bombay). Her parents are wonderful people. I thought she was a good person too. Thought is the operative word here. We had a 5 AM flight to Zurich to get back to Chicago so we had been up all day and needed to get to the airport around 1AM. I was posting some pics from the trip. She didn't like the way I worded some of the captions and started sending me rapid fire messages about everything that she didn't like. It was something like one every 10 seconds or so. I got annoyed and said that I didn't appreciate the editing in that fashion. Within seconds she stomped down to where I was sitting and proceeded to tear my head off in a 10 minute monologue of screaming about how I didn't do this and that like she asked with the pics, and that I didn't understand Indian culture, and I couldn't understand everything about India in 10 days, and that I was just another arrogant American. She went on and on without letting me get a word in edgewise. She then stomped upstairs to her room. I was dumbfounded and felt like I was attacked. The first thing I did was go to the airline app and change seats for the flights home. I really couldn't deal with her sitting next to me for 22 hours. She then sent me even more long winded messages about basically the same thing. This was what really got to me: "I am never going to bring any American friends, especially white, with me to India ever again." On the way to India, she asked me not to judge all Indian people by the actions of a former boss I had. Now she was doing the same with Americans, and specifically white Americans.
We got a ride to the airport and rode in silence. At the airport and at the layover, we probably didn't exchange more than 15 words. This was festering so I sent her an email stating that I thanked her and her parents again for my stay, and then going on to state what was bothering me. She repeated the same diatribe in the response.
I'm done with her. Later today I'm sending her the keys to her apartment. I had a set in case of emergency. I'm cutting off contact with her and blocking her on social media. During the trip she was very judgmental of my mental health issues. I tried to be a good friend to her for many years. Yes, she allowed me accompany to India. I'm thankful for that. But I have done a lot for her over the years also. I feel like I was kicked in the teeth. She is very judgmental, bordering on racist, and lacking any empathy for others. I don't need that kind of BS in my life.
The issue is that I don't have many friends. Losing one is a big deal to me. But this one isn't worth keeping.
EDIT: I sent her an email detailing my feelings, apologizing for any cultural insensitivities (that I didn't even recognize and were never explained to me), and letting her know that nothing was done out of malice.
She replied saying that I was blaming my depression and health issues for some of the issues (she doesn't understand the difference between sadness and depression). She also blamed me for falling twice at and after her parent's anniversary celebration (once while getting on a tour boat and once getting out of a taxi). I hurt my leg getting out of the taxi and may have had a slight dislocation that repaired itself at night when I was able to stretch my leg. I have a high tolerance for pain. She was complaining that I said my leg hurt. Having a high tolerance doesn't mean that I don't feel pain, it just means that I rarely need painkillers for it. Her father insisted that I take ibuprofen for it. She held that against me too. Apparently she was looking for a perfect travel companion and I just didn't measure up. What a psycho.
