Is there such a thing as a woman that's too horny?

I personally would question someone (man or woman) that is "too horny". I think the term needs further definition to decide if it is an issue or not. Sexual addiction is definitely a detrimental disease.
I've known women who were very into sex, not at an addiction level, but at a level where you couldn't trust them in the company of other men. They were attention craving and used sex to get that attention. If they couldn't get it through sex they'd figure out another way. They don't make good partners. Neither do men who are "too horny".
In my experience in a healthy relationship the physical aspect becomes something that doesn't have to be planned or asked for or even really talked about. It just happens. Sadly, that level of healthy relationship barely exists these days. We tend to put a lot of value on the wrong things, especially in a marriage.
I work daily on my marriage. There's nothing "wrong" with my marriage but it definitely could be better.
 
I know women who were way too horny. The uncontrolled sex drive came from the manic side of their bipolar disorder. They would take incredible risks to satisfy their craving. Safety and fidelity were thrown out the window. The inevitable crash into deep depression was the worst and filled with self hatred, embarassment and other bad consequences such as overspending, gambling etc.

It is hard to maintain relationships with that disorder and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
 
MonkeyZero said:
In my experience in a healthy relationship the physical aspect becomes something that doesn't have to be planned or asked for or even really talked about.
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That scenario is possible, sure, but talking about anything relevant to the relationship is never bad, IME. if everything works out perfectly for both people without talking that's great, but equating not having to talk with the health of a relationship is probably a bad idea. talking good.
 
ermghoti said:
That's because "addiction" encompasses "uncontollable compulsion." Is the married couple having joyless sex that is interfering with their ability to interact with others? Causing consequences in their daily lives, yet they continue the same behavior? Then yes, from a psycological perspective, they may well be considered addicts. I don't presonally care that the word, which had originally been applied to a physical condition, has crept into a broader meaning, but it's not all that hard to grasp.
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Why are you guessing all married couples are having joyless sex? Comedy routines you've heard? Sex is an evolutionary compulsion designed to keep our species thriving. There are some things in life that require a continual, regular compulsion. Like eating and sex. Most of the problems associated with sex come from our still lingering puritanical concept of sex being sinful. In fact if religions stopped advocating the suppression of sexual desires do you think the Catholic church would have had an epidemic of child molestations from priests. If priests were all married or allowed to date and have sex without guilt or stigma, there would have probably been a large reduction in those incidents. And victimizing other human beings with sex, or violence, is a problem more related to psychosis and social dissociation than addiction. Same with the notion of monogamy and the stigma of adultery. People have huge feelings of guilt associated with sex that has absolutely nothing to with an addiction, but rather with supposed breaking of religious rules and god looking down from heaven into their bedrooms (or kitchens, wherever they do it). And masturbation. What possible harm could come from masturbating daily? None. Zero. It's just a religious stigma that you're supposed to feel guilty about. It won't make you objectify women, as much as objectifying your dick.

There is no science cited in your post above, which is the usual case with labeling everything an addiction. Nothing is that hard to grasp that is factually unsupported. Watch out for gluten!!!!
 
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yabba said:
That scenario is possible, sure, but talking about anything relevant to the relationship is never bad, IME. if everything works out perfectly for both people without talking that's great, but equating not having to talk with the health of a relationship is probably a bad idea. talking good.
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I think you misunderstood. What I mean by not having to be talked about is it just happens. The mood strikes, both parties are interested, voila.
There's no "why don't we have more sex" conversations happening. Both parties feel satisfied.

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rickenvox said:
Why are you guessing all married couples are having joyless sex?
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I don't get that from his post at all. I think he's essentially saying the same thing Honkridge did.

Honkridge said:
"Too Horny" yes, that's a problem.

"Horny" not a problem.

See the difference noob?
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"Too much" is a problem because it's too much. no one is telling you how much sex is too much sex; it's too much by definition if you/your partner think it's too much/it negatively impacts you. If you and your partner have sex for 18 hours a day every day and can somehow manage to have otherwise fulfilling lives and are happy with that, then that's not too much sex.
 
MonkeyZero said:
I think you misunderstood. What I mean by not having to be talked about is it just happens. The mood strikes, both parties are interested, voila.
There's no "why don't we have more sex" conversations happening. Both parties feel satisfied.

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that's certainly the ideal!
 
shoeless said:
A married couple that has sex several times a day, all year long? Maybe the first year or two...MAYBE.
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Do most people read books or exercise regularly? No. But some do. I've known a few married couples that had extremely active sex lives more than 10 years into their marriages. Mine didn't last long enough, but more than 5 years with daily sex.
 
“My boss told me that I need to cut down on my at-work masturbation sessions” talk is clearly a touchy subject here.

(everyone stares at you-know-who)
 
yabba said:
I don't get that from his post at all. I think he's essentially saying the same thing Honkridge did.
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OK, this is a homework post where I have to go back and find the Honkridge post. I'm already doing homework whilst posting crazy comments without much research. Let's keep this conversation more flippant.
 
Flamencology said:
“My boss told me that I need to cut down on my at-work masturbation sessions” talk is clearly a touchy subject here.

(everyone stares at you-know-who)
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this joke only works because of the stigma. years of darkness and ignorance make this funny.

but I do believe that passive-aggressive behavior is a real thing.
 
rickenvox said:
Does anyone ever call a monogamous married couple who have sex several times a day sex addicts? No. It's only called addition when people are hooking up with different partners, which has nothing to do with the frequency or appetite for sex. Everything is called an addiction, sometimes with a lack of thought. Same with food. Even if someone is on a healthy and reasonable diet, they still crave food everyday, several times a days. It could be called an addiction, but it's necessary for sustained life. When it involves too many calories and the person doesn't exercise then it's called addiction. But doing things in an unhealthy manner is not the definition of addiction, it's the definition of gluttony and unsafe sex.

I'm addicted to breathing and hope to stay that way for as long as possible.
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Obviously, I am referring to people whose quest for sex leads to problems in their life. If a guy thinks a woman is too horny, I would want to look closer at the situation.

I agree that the word "addiction" is often misused. In fact, "addiction" is not even a clinical term as it has no measurable definition. I have, however, worked with clients, male and female, who have had major negative consequences due to sexual activity. That is what I was referring to. So far, I have not found anyone whose desire to breathe has led to negative consequences.
 
rickenvox said:
Why are you guessing all married couples are having joyless sex? Comedy routines you've heard? Sex is an evolutionary compulsion designed to keep our species thriving. There are some things in life that require a continual, regular compulsion. Like eating and sex. Most of the problems associated with sex come from our still lingering puritanical concept of sex being sinful. In fact if religions stopped advocating the suppression of sexual desires do you think the Catholic church would have had an epidemic of child molestations from priests. If priests were all married or allowed to date and have sex without guilt or stigma, there would have probably been a large reduction in those incidents. And victimizing other human beings with sex, or violence, is a problem more related to psychosis and social dissociation than addiction. Same with the notion of monogamy and the stigma of adultery. People have huge feelings of guilt associated with sex that has absolutely nothing to with an addiction, but rather with supposed breaking of religious rules and god looking down from heaven into their bedrooms (or kitchens, wherever they do it). And masturbation. What possible harm could come from masturbating daily? None. Zero. It's just a religious stigma that you're supposed to feel guilty about. It won't make you objectify women, as much as objectifying your dick.

There is no science cited in your post above, which is the usual case with labeling everything an addiction. Nothing is that hard to grasp that is factually unsupported. Watch out for gluten!!!!
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Why are you assuming from my refining your hypothetical couple's activity to be a generalization about married couples generally?

You want scientific citations in response to your utterly unsupported diatribe? Cool. There's one. Need more? Get reading.

I'm pretty much the furthest thing from some touchy feely granola cruncher, but that doesn't mean I'm incapable of noting a near-unanimous consensus within a field of study.

rickenvox said:
What possible harm could come from masturbating daily? None. Zero. It's just a religious stigma that you're supposed to feel guilty about. It won't make you objectify women, as much as objectifying your dick.
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Other than losing one's job, the ability to interact with real humans that differ from one's sexual fantasies, withdrawing from friends and hobbies, injuring one's genitals, nothing at all. Of course there are links.
 
Gary Blanchard said:
Obviously, I am referring to people whose quest for sex leads to problems in their life. If a guy thinks a woman is too horny, I would want to look closer at the situation.

I agree that the word "addiction" is often misused. In fact, "addiction" is not even a clinical term as it has no measurable definition. I have, however, worked with clients, male and female, who have had major negative consequences due to sexual activity. That is what I was referring to. So far, I have not found anyone whose desire to breathe has led to negative consequences.
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Yes of course (the breathing bit having no negative consequences). But the hierarchy of human needs is maybe breathing at the top, drinking water, eating, relieving oneself, and sex. They're all natural desires. What you're saying, I believe, is regular overindulgence with bad consequences is addiction. Of course people can have bad consequences the first time they overindulge, which wouldn't be attributable to addiction. Anyway, I fully realize people categorize these things as addictions and I have no desire to change that - just think we should question things instead of blindly accepting every pop psychology concept.

I also hope you'd want to look closer at the "guy" stating a woman is too horny and explore the sexist ideas he's holding to make him come to that conclusion.
 
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