Mental health check-in

Rough day. I had jury duty and they moved 3 groups of us (~40 people) from civil to criminal court. But not just criminal court, but juvenile criminal court. I was interviewed to sit on a jury for a double murder 1 case. Thankfully, I was excluded from the jury. I really can't say anything more about it. I'm just still processing it. Society, as a whole, has failed us.
 
Probably the roughest day I've ever had at work in Education. Call goes out for First Aid (aka me, I'm the only officially trained one in the building).

One of my colleagues sustained a pretty serious head injury at the hands of one of the students which was excaserbated by underlying health conditions.

Ambulance took ages to come, couldn't move my pal due to his condition and we're in a. very small room with another kid who can't be moved elsewhere but can become very violent very quickly.

That was bad enough then at one point my colleague became very distressed and scared which was f***king horrible. We managed to get him out but I'd to stay in situ for the rest of the day as there was nowhere else to cover for him.

Then cue 2 mental health workers who turned up to assess this particular kid an hour late - 5 minutes before he left for home. "We just need to get eyes on him, 5 minutes is fine".

I know one of them reasonably well, the other was a complete stranger and a clown, educational psychologist I'm assuming but she didn't say.

"I can feel that he's stressed when he came to me and you moved me away."

Yes because he's bitten someone's nipple off before, even if he doesn't do that, there's a good chance he'll still bite, punch or headbutt you.

"yes, yes but I also felt the staff were wary around him and you can feel his anxious energy"

He presents with that anxious energy that 95% of the time here and at home. Staff are wary of him because they know what he's capable of and he's hospitalised a fully grown man less than 2 hours ago, they aren't getting into his space or letting him into his no matter how much he wants it.

"Yes but,,,,"

Fuck off you fucking idiot.

I honestly am VERY chill most of the time and the one I knew had to kind of step in and defuse things because this other clown was being fucking ridiculous and she could see my fuse was running out. I can almost guarantee that if she'd turned up at the agreed time (I mean let's not bring up the fact you've fucked with a highly complex Autistic kids routine and expectations for the day dear!) and just done what she wanted without us intervening she'd have been the next one to the hospital and it would have been bad.

Anyway I took Lola a nice long walk to look at the Christmas decorations in our estate and it made me feel better. I'm going to crack a beer, stick on a Christmas film with Mrs JBJ and go again tomorrow.
 
Mrs. T got fired from her job 7 months ago over a fabricated lie, but the state unemployment sided with her so she was qualified to receive benefits. Not long after she started a new job, the old company appealed the benefits she received, so we wrote up a detailed account of the actual events. State unemployment sided with her again, so the old company filed one last appeal, this time with lawyers. After 3 teleconferenced hearings, the state sided with the old employer since they changed their documentation to cover that there really was no firing offense. We couldn't prove it without someone on the inside.

For the company, it wasn't about the money. It was personal, as she filed against them years ago with the EEOC. She managed to blow away the many attempts of writing her up over the years, but the new middle manager hired people from his past company, so they coordinated and teamed up against her. It was very personal.

So now, we will have to pay the state back almost $7,000 while I still have no income to help. I have no idea how we're going to pull this off. She is a tough woman, but being victimized over and over by those assholes has beat her up. I'm worse off. I'm so fucking tired of defeat after defeat. Life and the assholes of the world have won. I am a shell of my former self, no longer resilient and far weaker than I could ever imagine being. I'm only alive because I could never do anything to hurt her. People suck. Life is total crap. The country is heading for its last gasp death spiral. All the wisdom I've accumulated on how to deal with life is now worthless. Don't worry. I'm not going to do anything stupid.
 
sunvalleylaw said:
Made the choice to “unwatch” the politics thread and forum a couple days ago, and it is a good thing for me right now. I have too much on my plate to fuck around with stuff I can’t control anyway, and I can drop in once in a while (and have done) to check in for a sec. But I don’t automatically click on that thread from the “Watched Threads” menu anymore, reflexively. Feels quite good to me right now. Just that small level of detachment.
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Sadly, that thread and one over on OffsetGuitars are the only two outlets I've had for such discussion that isn't just battling with bots and people with less intellect than a bot. It kind of keeps me sane that even when there is a difference of opinion that it's a real, reasonable human being on the other end and not somebody that's just spewing pre-programmed talking points. I feel like I need that right now otherwise I run the risk of becoming uninformed and/or bottling up feelings regarding that.

I am, however, very close to nuking my Facebook profile. I've spent the past couple years curating what I follow (guitar stuff, Star Trek, tech nerd stuff, etc.) and removing the toxic people (mostly my blood relatives) from my feed. Meta, however, has decided that it wants my feed full of utter nonsense, to the point where I don't see the things I actually follow. Yesterday I was fed multiple videos about women getting lip injections and implants. Why? In what reality would a chubby bearded guy find interest in that?
 
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PunkKitty said:
Rough day. I had jury duty and they moved 3 groups of us (~40 people) from civil to criminal court. But not just criminal court, but juvenile criminal court. I was interviewed to sit on a jury for a double murder 1 case. Thankfully, I was excluded from the jury. I really can't say anything more about it. I'm just still processing it. Society, as a whole, has failed us.
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There seems to be a generation of parents that just stopped parenting. And I don't mean that in the sense of "punishing" a kid when they're bad (I hate this memes about "I got hit with a belt and I turned out OK!"). I've personally dealt with way too many parents that don't model healthy relationships and behavior nor do they encourage their kids to be good and do things that are constructive. I've literally heard parents tell their kids not to listen to teachers because they "don't know anything". It's truly wild and I'm glad my kids give me evidence that I've done the opposite by being just kind.

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Tig said:
Mrs. T got fired from her job 7 months ago over a fabricated lie, but the state unemployment sided with her so she was qualified to receive benefits. Not long after she started a new job, the old company appealed the benefits she received, so we wrote up a detailed account of the actual events. State unemployment sided with her again, so the old company filed one last appeal, this time with lawyers. After 3 teleconferenced hearings, the state sided with the old employer since they changed their documentation to cover that there really was no firing offense. We couldn't prove it without someone on the inside.

For the company, it wasn't about the money. It was personal, as she filed against them years ago with the EEOC. She managed to blow away the many attempts of writing her up over the years, but the new middle manager hired people from his past company, so they coordinated and teamed up against her. It was very personal.

So now, we will have to pay the state back almost $7,000 while I still have no income to help. I have no idea how we're going to pull this off. She is a tough woman, but being victimized over and over by those assholes has beat her up. I'm worse off. I'm so fucking tired of defeat after defeat. Life and the assholes of the world have won. I am a shell of my former self, no longer resilient and far weaker than I could ever imagine being. I'm only alive because I could never do anything to hurt her. People suck. Life is total crap. The country is heading for its last gasp death spiral. All the wisdom I've accumulated on how to deal with life is now worthless. Don't worry. I'm not going to do anything stupid.
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Having a brother-in-law that's a lawyer I have a network of lawyers available to me, but they're unfortunately not in your state... That sounds like a case of falsified documentation and destruction of evidence and I bet they don't have the smarts to cover their tracks well enough.
 
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GilmourD said:
Sadly, that thread and one over on OffsetGuitars are the only two outlets I've had for such discussion that isn't just battling with bots and people with less intellect than a bot. It kind of keeps me sane that even when there is a difference of opinion that it's a real, reasonable human being on the other end and not somebody that's just spewing pre-programmed talking points. I feel like I need that right now otherwise I run the risk of becoming uninformed and/or bottling up feelings regarding that.

I am, however, very close to nuking my Facebook profile. I've spent the past couple years curating what I follow (guitar stuff, Star Trek, tech nerd stuff, etc.) and removing the toxic people (mostly my blood relatives) from my feed. Meta, however, has decided that it wants my feed full of utter nonsense, to the point where I don't see the things I actually follow. Yesterday I was fed multiple videos about women getting lip injections and implants. Why? In what reality would a chubby bearded guy find interest in that?
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lately (and especially since meta) my FB feed is full of shit-ass-trumper crap. and it seems like, if you hide/block those profiles/people, you just get even MORE of them. it's like reverse algorithms. whatever you are trying to watch, it gives you the exact opposite.
i've been thinking of nuking mine too, but then i'd loose touch with a bunch of people i actually care about, and don't have any other common platform to stay in touch with.

i have actual fear about what is going to happen once that fucking orange asshole is actually in charge.
 
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GilmourD said:
Sadly, that thread and one over on OffsetGuitars are the only two outlets I've had for such discussion that isn't just battling with bots and people with less intellect than a bot. It kind of keeps me sane that even when there is a difference of opinion that it's a real, reasonable human being on the other end and not somebody that's just spewing pre-programmed talking points. I feel like I need that right now otherwise I run the risk of becoming uninformed and/or bottling up feelings regarding that.

I am, however, very close to nuking my Facebook profile. I've spent the past couple years curating what I follow (guitar stuff, Star Trek, tech nerd stuff, etc.) and removing the toxic people (mostly my blood relatives) from my feed. Meta, however, has decided that it wants my feed full of utter nonsense, to the point where I don't see the things I actually follow. Yesterday I was fed multiple videos about women getting lip injections and implants. Why? In what reality would a chubby bearded guy find interest in that?
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I've found a method of cleaning crap out of my facebook feed that actually works. For everything in your feed that isn't either something or someone you follow, or a sponsored post, click the three dots and click "Hide this post see fewer posts like this". If you do this religiously for a couple of days facebook gets the hint (or maybe the algorithm gets confused) and you will stop seeing anything other than things you follow and sponsored posts.

Facebook will start back with crap posts in a few weeks, so it isn't a permanent solution. But if you are vigilant with policing your feed, facebook will give you weeks long periods with no crap.
 
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I've found a method of cleaning crap out of my facebook feed that actually works. For everything in your feed that isn't either something or someone you follow, or a sponsored post, click the three dots and click "Hide this post see fewer posts like this". If you do this religiously for a couple of days facebook gets the hint (or maybe the algorithm gets confused) and you will stop seeing anything other than things you follow and sponsored posts.

Facebook will start back with crap posts in a few weeks, so it isn't a permanent solution. But if you are vigilant with policing your feed, facebook will give you weeks long periods with no crap.
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I do that and the same exact groups/pages pop up later the same day.
 
Delete your personal Facebook. You don't need it. Nobody needs it. It's poison! Personal and societal poison. This applies to Twitter too.

Use it for Marketplace and musician classifieds like I do? Create a dummy account and don't friend anyone and just use it for that. Got rid of my "real" Facebook page three or four years ago and it was a great idea.

Also, since the day after the election I have deleted all news apps, stopped going to the Politics forum, stopped reading / watching / listening to anything other than music and sports stuff. I have no idea what's going on since the election in the news, none. The only thing I've heard about was that insurance CEO getting gunned down and that's just because people were talking about it at work. I should have done this years ago, too. Being an informed citizen is overrated and I am MUCH happier. It's not like I can do anything about any of it anyways, so why let it impact my mental health?
 
GilmourD said:
Sadly, that thread and one over on OffsetGuitars are the only two outlets I've had for such discussion that isn't just battling with bots and people with less intellect than a bot. It kind of keeps me sane that even when there is a difference of opinion that it's a real, reasonable human being on the other end and not somebody that's just spewing pre-programmed talking points. I feel like I need that right now otherwise I run the risk of becoming uninformed and/or bottling up feelings regarding that.

I am, however, very close to nuking my Facebook profile. I've spent the past couple years curating what I follow (guitar stuff, Star Trek, tech nerd stuff, etc.) and removing the toxic people (mostly my blood relatives) from my feed. Meta, however, has decided that it wants my feed full of utter nonsense, to the point where I don't see the things I actually follow. Yesterday I was fed multiple videos about women getting lip injections and implants. Why? In what reality would a chubby bearded guy find interest in that?
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I still check in with the thread here. Just don't have it on speed dial anymore.
 
Tig said:
Christmas is next week and I don’t even have the thought that counts.
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don't feel alone on that.
this time of year i would like to go to a different planet for a month.
i hate what xmas has become. everyone is a flaming asshole, everywhere.
me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me!!!!!
 
GilmourD said:
There seems to be a generation of parents that just stopped parenting. And I don't mean that in the sense of "punishing" a kid when they're bad (I hate this memes about "I got hit with a belt and I turned out OK!"). I've personally dealt with way too many parents that don't model healthy relationships and behavior nor do they encourage their kids to be good and do things that are constructive. I've literally heard parents tell their kids not to listen to teachers because they "don't know anything". It's truly wild and I'm glad my kids give me evidence that I've done the opposite by being just kind.

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Mate you don't know the half of it.

I had to call a parent once because their kid had used the N word and when by he teacher challenged doubled down and kicked off. I chinned him about it and he demanded I call his dad. Ummm no, you don't dictate what I do 16 year old kid. 2 minutes late he's text his dad who phones the school asking to speak to me! When I explain the situation the parents response is "well they :headsmash: can say it in their music, my son will say it if he wants." Well he can, but he'll be sent home and a racist incident will be formally recorded at local authority level and as he is a senior and has the capacity to understand what he's doing, we'll likely get the police involved as it's a criminal offence. Clown couldn't wrap his head round this and reported me to my boss demanding I was suspended!

Last week I'd to send an e-mail along the lines of: "Thanks for reporting this. Being honest, I'm really struggling to believe *teacher X* would scream at and call *kid A* an idiot in front of a room full of pupils and with other staff in situ but let me investigate and I'll get back to you." No teacher X did not do this. Yes kid A made it up (not that this is his first spurious allegation against staff, (some much worse than this that his parents have already known turned out to be absolute BS) because he doesn't like the teacher and wanted to get them into trouble. The kicker - this parent works in a school herself and when I got back to her the response was: "Yeah but you know that teacher can be quite short in the way she speaks to students, she should be spoken to about her attitude!"
 
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