Mental health check-in

[jbj]

As it can do, my work has rapidly descended into madness on multiple fronts yesterday and today, some of them really significant / dangerous.

And that's just the high tariff stuff.

The new parents have no doubt got a group chat cabal going because my inbox has exploded all of a sudden too so that'll be fun until they realise I'm much less amenable to non-issues than my predecessor

 

[Lerxst]

With my couple hours of free time this afternoon, I went to some of the places I used to spend time and inadvertently did a mini-tour of places I've lived over the years. Unlocked a lot of memories of people long gone or just no longer in my life. It was amazing and somewhat bittersweet at the same time.

TBH, I closed the book on ever thinking of the area as home the day we moved west. Not much has really changed here since and it's still not my home. It's just enough familiar and just enough not that it seems almost like a fever dream version of my memories. Werid.

 

[Tig]

On a bittersweet note, I was able to create a new Facebook account recently after they kicked me off 14 months ago. I missed staying in touch with friends and family who are scattered geographically.

I don't miss the malignant ignorance of my neighbors and countrymen, however.

 

[nuke_diver]

On a bittersweet note, I was able to create a new Facebook account recently after they kicked me off 14 months ago. I missed staying in touch with friends and family who are scattered geographically.

I don't miss the malignant ignorance of my neighbors and countrymen, however.

The only reason I use FB is for those that are far away from me (mainly in other countries) in order to stay in touch. If someone starts to get overly political, I snooze them for 30 days (first offense, 2nd offence) or unfollow (3 strikes law). It's worked out pretty well for me

 

[sunvalleylaw]

On a bittersweet note, I was able to create a new Facebook account recently after they kicked me off 14 months ago. I missed staying in touch with friends and family who are scattered geographically.

I don't miss the malignant ignorance of my neighbors and countrymen, however.

Ok, I will friend you again. I wondered if that was a clone account.

 

[jbj]

Rough couple of days.

Put my foot in it with something I said to a coworker then bottled it to apologise because I was too embarrassed. They brought it up, and rightly so, because they weren't happy but it's made me feel worse because I should have addressed it myself before they came to me.

I dunno if it's that, a really tough week in work,most likely a mixture of both but I have a hidden disability that really doesn't get me down but Mrs jbj made some comments yesterday about it that upset me to the point I slept in the spare room which isn't like ys at all.

It's still bugging me and she didn't mean to upset me, again it's something I've lived with for years and it never bothers me but I'll need to address this before bed which I'm not looking forward to either.

 

[GilmourD]

As it can do, my work has rapidly descended into madness on multiple fronts yesterday and today, some of them really significant / dangerous.

And that's just the high tariff stuff.

The new parents have no doubt got a group chat cabal going because my inbox has exploded all of a sudden too so that'll be fun until they realise I'm much less amenable to non-issues than my predecessor

Parents have lost their minds. The wife and I are older than most of the parents of our children, but our contemporaries with our son's age group (he's 14 going into freshman year of high school) have been alright. Our contemporaries in our daughter's age group (she's 8, turning 9 in November, and going into third grade) are out of their fucking minds.

And this is just what I deal with at home. I'm the SIS manager for a school system, too, now and parents are either insane or dumber than my dog, who's himself really fucking dumb.

 

[jbj]

Parents have lost their minds. The wife and I are older than most of the parents of our children, but our contemporaries with our son's age group (he's 14 going into freshman year of high school) have been alright. Our contemporaries in our daughter's age group (she's 8, turning 9 in November, and going into third grade) are out of their fucking minds.

And this is just what I deal with at home. I'm the SIS manager for a school system, too, now and parents are either insane or dumber than my dog, who's himself really fucking dumb.

Unfortunately a lot of our parents have mental health struggles or their own additional needs which isn't helpful but across the board parents are ridiculous.

I had to listen to a distant family member bang on last night about how golden child (aka anti-social little shit number 2) is being bullied by teacher x, y and z while the kid is sitting giving it: "I don't like maths, I'm good at it but the teacher is horrible to me blah blah blah."

Aye ok son, you're shown natural aptitude in a subject most teenage males hate so the natural response of the man who has dedicated his life to imparting his knowledge to others in said subject is to bully you....

 

[GilmourD]

On a bittersweet note, I was able to create a new Facebook account recently after they kicked me off 14 months ago. I missed staying in touch with friends and family who are scattered geographically.

I don't miss the malignant ignorance of my neighbors and countrymen, however.

Honestly, I use social media so little these days. It's hard for me to even log into my business account and can only drag myself there because I just created the website and need to promote it. The toxicity that social media has bred is just... exhausting. Even in the guitar space.

 

[GilmourD]

Unfortunately a lot of our parents have mental health struggles or their own additional needs which isn't helpful but across the board parents are ridiculous.

I had to listen to a distant family member bang on last night about how golden child (aka anti-social little shit number 2) is being bullied by teacher x, y and z while the kid is sitting giving it: "I don't like maths, I'm good at it but the teacher is horrible to me blah blah blah."

Aye ok son, you're shown natural aptitude in a subject most teenage males hate so the natural response of the man who has dedicated his life to imparting his knowledge to others in said subject is to bully you....

I will say that some of the dumbest people I know have advanced degrees. But that is fortunately a very small percentage.

Some teachers are absolutely fantastic. That's one of the reasons that my best friend became my best friend. She will fail your ass if that's what you deserved, but she will also go out of her way to try to make you understand what she's teaching because she'd rather enter a good grade that you've earned. The irony is that she thinks she's a shit teacher and was only hired because she's a fluent speaker of Spanish.

But there are teachers who clearly are in the wrong profession... But people seem to think that's all of them these days.

 

[GilmourD]

So on a point of mental health that may actually be on topic if you consider Das Wein's Guitar Indoctrination Forum to be a guitar forum:

My guitar collection has BALLOOOOOOOOONED in the past year or so, but it's mostly builds using parts that I got for a whole lot less than I really should have paid. A good amount of it was "Oh, I'll bid this on eBay... But I'll get outbid... Oh, shit... I won..."

But that's how I went from one Jaguar last April to five Jaguars, four Jazzmasters, a Mustang, a Bass VI, two Gretsches (not parts but acquired for great prices), and a Height Coyote. Oh, and incomplete projects that I either need to paint or route to complete and that just needs cooperating weather or my neck to not feel like luke-warm ass.

That's all on top of the guitars I already had.

 

[Lerxst]

Things are wrapping up and I'll finally be heading home in a few days.

I have more of an understanding around how this came to be so messed up but no answers of how to nip these situations in bud...just how to draw some boundaries before I'd hop on a plane and fly out again.

On the plus side, I got to briefly see a couple friends who I haven't spoke to in a long time. I'm ready to put this in the review view though.

 

[mnewb1]

So on a point of mental health that may actually be on topic if you consider Das Wein's Guitar Indoctrination Forum to be a guitar forum:

My guitar collection has BALLOOOOOOOOONED in the past year or so, but it's mostly builds using parts that I got for a whole lot less than I really should have paid. A good amount of it was "Oh, I'll bid this on eBay... But I'll get outbid... Oh, shit... I won..."

But that's how I went from one Jaguar last April to five Jaguars, four Jazzmasters, a Mustang, a Bass VI, two Gretsches (not parts but acquired for great prices), and a Height Coyote. Oh, and incomplete projects that I either need to paint or route to complete and that just needs cooperating weather or my neck to not feel like luke-warm ass.

That's all on top of the guitars I already had.

Yeah, I’m feeling that, I have added this past year: PRS 513, Heritage Core 150, Breedlove Acoustic, Musicman bass, upgrades to my partscaster tele custom, upgrades to my PRS singlecut trem, a partscaster strat, a Harley Benton LP, Tonex, Amplitube, and now a Fender Bassman with a Harley Benton 250 watt attenuator and a two notes CAB M…. All coinciding with a difficult transition period which has been playing out over the last 9 months… coincidence?

 

[PunkKitty]

So on a point of mental health that may actually be on topic if you consider Das Wein's Guitar Indoctrination Forum to be a guitar forum:

My guitar collection has BALLOOOOOOOOONED in the past year or so, but it's mostly builds using parts that I got for a whole lot less than I really should have paid. A good amount of it was "Oh, I'll bid this on eBay... But I'll get outbid... Oh, shit... I won..."

But that's how I went from one Jaguar last April to five Jaguars, four Jazzmasters, a Mustang, a Bass VI, two Gretsches (not parts but acquired for great prices), and a Height Coyote. Oh, and incomplete projects that I either need to paint or route to complete and that just needs cooperating weather or my neck to not feel like luke-warm ass.

That's all on top of the guitars I already had.

When I get anxious, I need to channel my energy. The vast majority of my guitars are parts builds.

 

[bsman]

Things are wrapping up and I'll finally be heading home in a few days.

I have more of an understanding around how this came to be so messed up but no answers of how to nip these situations in bud...just how to draw some boundaries before I'd hop on a plane and fly out again.

On the plus side, I got to briefly see a couple friends who I haven't spoke to in a long time. I'm ready to put this in the review view though.

Hope your mom's feeling better. When Mrs. bsman had her knee replaced she had some terrible pain for the first two or three weeks. Does you mom have a recliner? That helped us a lot. In fact, she slept in it for a couple of months.

 

[bsman]

I'm having a myasthenia gravis flare up just as I'm trying to get off prednisone (after 15 months and 20 pounds). If it lasts more than another week I'm going to have to up the prednisone again and I don't want to do that for a variety of reasons. Oh yeah - and the other drug I'm taking for it (pyridostigmine bromide) induces hyperhidrosis so I sweat like a pig (I'm talking sweat rolling off my arms and the brim of my cap and soaking all my clothing when I'm exercising). Also increases urinary urgency to a fever pitch which can be fun...

 

[Lerxst]

Hope your mom's feeling better. When Mrs. bsman had her knee replaced she had some terrible pain for the first two or three weeks. Does you mom have a recliner? That helped us a lot. In fact, she slept in it for a couple of months.

She does....bought the recliner off the interwebs cause it was cheap and it's a total POS. She did sleep in it for the first week but doesn't use it any more. She's got another chair that seems fine for her at this point. Great progress over the past 3 weeks

 

[mnewb1]

It has been interesting lately as I come toward a life shift that has been playing out over the last 9 months, to watch how I “cycle” through my 5 stages of grief…. Initially as the wheel turns and a set back occurs I can feel really down, sometime absolutely devastated. I have learned to simply inhabit it, believing that it will lift (doesn’t “feel” that way, but believe). During these times, I simply distract, youtube is my friend here. Actually it usually does not take too long to cycle into anger. I don’t mean an outward anger, but more an inner indignation that spurs action, and the action pulls me forward… rinse repeat!

 

[Lerxst]

Got an update from my mom and her recovery has continued to progress and she's really on target at this point. Those 3 weeks paid off.

I'm currently going through all the paperwork for FMLA and trying to figure out how to get paid for that time. Looks like I have to also apply for state paid medical leave and then submit something at work to cover the difference on our family care leave program. Fun

 

[PunkKitty]

It has been interesting lately as I come toward a life shift that has been playing out over the last 9 months, to watch how I “cycle” through my 5 stages of grief…. Initially as the wheel turns and a set back occurs I can feel really down, sometime absolutely devastated. I have learned to simply inhabit it, believing that it will lift (doesn’t “feel” that way, but believe). During these times, I simply distract, youtube is my friend here. Actually it usually does not take too long to cycle into anger. I don’t mean an outward anger, but more an inner indignation that spurs action, and the action pulls me forward… rinse repeat!

Grief is weird. The stages come in no particular order. And you just have to ride them out. Grief has no time period. It just takes as long as it takes. And you have to give yourself room to breathe and just ride with it. If you don't allow yourself to feel the grief, the next wave is just harder to deal with. At least that's my experience.